You aren't John Cena

 Someone knows you are a tarot reader and they think you are pulling cards on them. They don't know you don't have to pull cards. If Spirit wants you to know your gonna hear it. Thru music, tv, a book, etc. They don't want you to cry because of them. They want you to experience happiness even if its without them. The lessons they have learned because of this  may have hurt, but they taught them so much. They know they lack more than they have to offer. 

They don't want just a one night stand they want you to themselves forever.

They are trying to figure out the when and where they can sex you to get you to give in to them and they can dump their burdens on you. 

Without you in their life they have felt cocooned. They are realizing that their childhood trauma have affected this relationship. They realize they need YOU not someone like you., but actually you and its hard for them to wrap their mind around. They really didn't see you. Every time they try to leave you they look back at you and fall in love all over again for you harder every time. They know that pushing you away was the worst thing they could have ever done to themselves. They haven't done the work though that is the biggest secret they have.